Signs You Are a Side Chick

All The Surefire Signs You’re Just His Side Chick And Nothing More

“if you start a relationship being the other woman, you will never be the only woman.” Bell Kariuki on Relationships

​Sure Signs that you are a side chick and not his girlfriend.

By Bell Kariuki (InstagramTwitter

Within the past few years, guys having a “side chick” has reached an all time high. There are songs, movies, and even books about being the other woman, which is pretty messed up.

You’d think men would “keep it 100” and tell you if they weren’t ready to be in a relationship with only one person (or that he’s actually already with someone when you meet).

 Instead, they’ve gotten a lot more clever and underhanded in their tactics and they know how to keep their girlfriends and their side pieces separate.

Also, being a side chick is no longer an embarrassment to some women, which gives us men more reason to have one. 

Here are a few signs that he’s actually in a relationship with someone else.

1. He buys you sh*t to keep you happy.

Hush gifts are things he buys for you when you start talking about serious sh*t, like moving in together, committing, or spending time with his family, and an argument sparks. Because he wants to keep you as his side chick, he finds your material weakness and plays on that to stray you away from the serious topics and also to keep youaround.

2. He seems completely disconnected when you get emotional with him.

When women date, they anticipate the time in their relationships when they fall for the guy and can tell him how they feel. However, if you open up to your man and tell him how you feel repeatedly and he doesn’t reciprocate and/or tries to downplay the entire topic, this could be a sign that his heart lies elsewhere.

3. You’re never invited to stay the night after sex.

As couples get more comfortable with each other, they tend to stay over at one another’s place after sex. However, if he leaves your apartment in the middle of the night, or makes sure you never stay over at his place, this is a definite red flag. Also, keep in mind, if he has a family or“main chick”, staying until dawn will never be an option.
4. He refuses to show affection in public.

PDA (Public Display of Affection) should never be an issue in any relationship, so long as it’s within reason. But if you go to grab his hand and he pulls his away, or you never kiss or get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re a side chick. This also gives him room to lie to his “main chick” about who you are if you two happen to be seen.
5. He dodges every photo opportunity.

Everyone is on Facebook and Instagram posting their food, kids, and significant others. Snapchat and Whatsapp make every day a motion picture production. So if you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like bullets whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture,you may be a side chick.

6. You have a “secret spot” that he tries to play off as romantic.

Every couple has a favorite spot to eat or hang out. However, if he choses to always take you miles outside of the city or to venues with very little traffic, it’s a possibility he’s trying to be discreet about being out with you, without letting you know.
Bonus

He always wants to meet late at night.

If you only meet after dark or after reasonable date hours, such as 11pm or later, chances are he has another life that he leads – the hours prior to those latenight “booty call” hours.
He prefers to stay in when you’re together.

If your guy always strays away from going out or always wants to just come to your place to hang out, this is a major side chick indicator. There’s a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time.
You’re never invited to family gatherings. 

If you have never met a guy’s parents and children or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is another side chick indicator.

He has to go suddenly whenever you’re on the phone.

When you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name more often than not, that’s a definite sign you are a side chick. If he’s always gotta go suddenly or straight up hangs up on you out of nowhere from time to time, that’s probably because his actual girlfriend got home.

The Gay Cult (Why I don’t support LGBT) 

LGBT: The New Bullies on the Block
A sick, twisted generation. So sad what this World has become.

Gay groups use mob intimidation and passive aggression to force capitulation.

Exposing the gay Agenda, Integrity’s scared of the in-your-face methods by Bell Kariuki

By Bell Kariuki (InstagramTwitter

What comes first into your mind when someone suggests that homosexuality is wrong in 2017? “oh he’s primitive” “people are still religious?” “hypocrisy” “we are all sinners” or some will be compassionate enough to say “we understand, some people are closed minded, and you can’t blame them” lol yeah right. Typical bullying tactics.

Well, here’s my bold approach, I used to be naive too. I assumed that everyone is fair and driven by justice, and the interests of other people, fighting for human rights and the “greater good” until I studied  political science and the laws of human nature. Adults and Human beings in general are driven by their own interests and that’s a fact. We are driven by our own selfish interests. No matter how much we pretend to be fair and try to act selfless. It’s almost impossible to see the world through someone else’s eyes. So most people choose not to. We choose to ignore the other side. We pretend to be nice and “socially acceptable” but behind the masks we are simmering with anger and other dark emotions. There’s no such thing as fighting for equality, I call bs. Anyone worth respect is and will be treated with respect. That’s a fact. The rest is politics.  Having such kind of knowledge a sense of understanding helps you begin to look at things for what they are and not for what people sugar-coated the bullshit to be. Do we hate gays? NO. But Do we support their bullshit and sexual Perversion disguised as “human rights”? NO! 

The reason why some  people are gender confused is because they are  under a delusion, because they take pleasure in Sin rather then the Truth. Some of them have come up with their own ideal of what they think God is about and not finding out who God really is. They have made a false God that they worship. Some are just worshiping them self, it’s all about them only ( selfish) could care less about anyone else’s happiness only their own.  The God of Heaven will not allow a homosexual or transgender person in Heaven unless they hate that they are in SIN and struggling to pull themselves out of this Sin, by seeking Jesus to help them  with repentance in there heart. 2 Thessalonians  2:8 And then shall that Wicked be revealed, whom the Lord shall consume with the spirit of his mouth, and shall destroy with the brightness of his coming:  2:9 Even him, whose coming is after the working of Satan with all power and signs and lying wonders,   2:10 And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. 2:11 And for this cause. God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: 2:12That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness. Deuteronomy 22:5 5 A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this. 1 Corinthians  6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,effeminate = Transgender  abusers of themselves with mankind” in the King James Version (KJV): The KJV was finished 1611 CE when there was no single word in the English language that referred to homosexuals or homosexuality. The translators were forced to use this awkward phrase. The term “homosexual” was only created in the late 19th century.  “homosexuals,” (NASB); “homosexual perversion,” (NEB); “homosexual offenders,” (NIV). ef·fem·i·nate əˈfemənət/ adjective (of a man) having or showing characteristics regarded as typical of a woman; unmanly.synonyms: womanish, effete, foppish, unmanly, feminine; informalcamp, campy, flaming trans·gen·der transˈjendər,tranzˈjendər/ adjective denoting or relating to a person whose self-identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender. “a transgender activist and author” G3120 Original: μαλακόςTransliteration: malakos Phonetic: mal-ak-os’Thayer Definition: soft, soft to the touchmetaphorically in a bad sense effeminate of a catamite of a boy kept for homosexual relations with a man of a male who submits his body to unnatural lewdness of a male prostitute Origin: of uncertain affinity TDNT entry: None Part(s) of speech: AdjectiveStrong’s Definition: Of uncertain affinity; soft, that is, fine (clothing); figuratively a catamite: – effeminate, soft.

God’s Plan for the Gay Agenda
Articles (Bible Excerpt) 

Genesis 2:18-25; Genesis 19:1-28;

Leviticus 18:22; Leviticus 20:13; Isaiah 5:20; Ezekiel 16:46-50; Matthew 19:4-6;

Romans 1:24-28; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11;

Galatians 5:19-21; Ephesians 5:22-33; Jude 7-8

If you’ve been watching the headlines over the last couple years, you may have noticed the incredible surge of interest in affirming homosexuality. Whether it’s at the heart of a religious scandal, political corruption, radical legislation, or the redefinition of marriage, homosexual interests have come to characterize the world. That’s an indication of the success of the gay agenda. And some Christians,including somenational church leaders, have wavered on the issue even recently. But sadly, when people refuse to acknowledge the sinfulness of homosexuality—calling evil good and good evil (Isaiah 5:20)—they do so at the expense of many souls.

How should you respond to the success of the gay agenda?

Should you accept the recent trend toward tolerance? Or should you side with those who exclude homosexuals with hostility and disdain?

In reality, the Bible calls for a balance between what some people think are two opposing reactions—condemnation and compassion. Really, the two together are essential elements of biblical love, and that’s something the homosexual sinner desperately needs.

Homosexual advocates have been remarkably effective in selling their warped interpretations of passages in Scripture that address homosexuality. When you ask a homosexual what the Bible says about homosexuality—and many of them know—they have digested an interpretation that is not only warped, but also completely irrational. Pro-homosexual arguments from the Bible are nothing but smokescreens—as you come close, you see right through them.

God’s condemnation of homosexuality is abundantly clear—He opposes it in every age.

– In the patriarchs (Genesis 19:1-28)

– In the Law of Moses (Leviticus 18:22;

20:13)

– In the Prophets (Ezekiel 16:46-50)

– In the New Testament (Romans 1:18-27;

1 Corinthians 6:9-10; Jude 7-8)

Why does God condemn homosexuality? Because it overturns God’s fundamental design for human relationships—a design that pictures the complementary relationship between a man and a woman (Genesis 2:18-25; Matthew 19:4-6; Ephesians 5:22-33).

Why, then, have homosexual interpretations of Scripture been so successful at persuading so many?

Simple: people want to be convinced. Since the Bible is so clear about the issue, sinners have had to defy reason and embrace error to quiet their accusing consciences (Romans 2:14-16). As Jesus said, “Men loved the darkness rather than the Light, [because] their deeds were evil” (John 3:19-20).

As a Christian, you must not compromise what the Bible says about homosexuality—ever. No matter how much you desire to be compassionate to the homosexual, your first sympathies belong to the Lord and to the exaltation of His righteousness. Homosexuals stand in defiant rebellion against the will of their Creator who from the beginning “made them male and female” (Matthew 19:4).

Don’t allow yourself to be intimidated by homosexual advocates and their futile reasoning—their arguments are without substance. Homosexuals, and those who advocate that sin, are fundamentally committed to overturning the lordship of Christ in this world. But their rebellion is useless, for the Holy Spirit says, “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9-10; cf.

Galatians 5:19-21).

So, what is God’s response to the homosexual agenda?

Certain and final judgment. To claim anything else is to compromise the truth of God and deceive those who are perishing.

As you interact with homosexuals and their sympathizers, you must affirm the Bible’s condemnation. You are not trying to bring damnation on the head of homosexuals, you are trying to bring conviction so that they can turn from that sin and embrace the only hope of salvation for all of us sinners—and that’s through faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Homosexuals need salvation. They don’t need healing—homosexuality is not a disease. They don’t need therapy—homosexuality is not a psychological condition. Homosexuals need forgiveness, because homosexuality is a sin.

I don’t know how it happened, but a few decades ago someone branded homosexuals with the worst misnomer—”gay.” Gay used to mean happy, but I can assure you, homosexuals are not happy people. They habitually seek happiness by following after destructive pleasures. There is a reason Romans 1:26 calls homosexual desire a “degrading passion.” It is a lust that destroys the physical body, ruins relationships, and brings perpetual suffering to the soul—and its ultimate end is death (Romans 7:5). Homosexuals are experiencing the judgment of God (Romans 1:24, 26, 28), and thus they are very, very sad.

First Corinthians 6 is very clear about the eternal consequence for those who practice homosexuality—but there’s good news. No matter what the sin is, whether homosexuality or anything else, God has provided forgiveness, salvation, and the hope of eternal life to those who repent and embrace the gospel. Right after identifying homosexuals as those who “will not inherit the kingdom of God,” Paul said, “Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).

God’s plan for many homosexuals is that they come to salvation. There were former homosexuals in the Corinthian church back in Paul’s day, just as there are many former homosexuals today in my church and in faithful churches around the country. With regenerated hearts, they sit in biblical churches throughout the country praising their Savior, along with former fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, thieves, coveters, drunkards, revilers, and swindlers. Remember, such were some of you too.

What should be your response to the homosexual agenda?

Make it a biblical response—confront it with the truth of Scripture that condemns homosexuality and promises eternal damnation for all who practice it. What should be your response to the homosexual? Make it a gospel response—confront him with the truth of Scripture that condemns him as a sinner, and point him to the hope of salvation through repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. Stay faithful to the Lord as you respond to homosexuality by honoring His Word, and leave the results to Him.

I welcome all kinds of replies. Reblog, criclsize. Let the truth be spoken. 
​PS: we don’t want to be mean to gays; we want to expose them when they’re being bullies. 

Men With Daddy Issues

Dealing with daddy issues

Bell Kariuki on ​Relationships and Men With Daddy Issues

Do men have daddy issues? 

One huge contributing factor to why many relationships fail today and increase in homosexuality is because a lot of men have Daddy Issues! Yeah I said it.

New age Socialites and the stereotypical ‘exotic’ dancers aren’t the only ones inflicted with this debilitating hindrance. The average “Johnte” asking for your number in the mall is likely to have Daddy issues the size of a small island too. They may not be the same as the next man’s, but even though this topic is rarely addressed, (ironically because it’s not manly), it continually stalks the psyche, (often unconsciously), of many.

The world today has changed so much that individuality (Narcissism) is the new trend, doing things the way you want is correct and this includes parenting and relationships. It’s funny, how many people believe the human superiority complex. As the dominant species on the planet, too many make the incorrect assumption that we’re born with all the necessary skills to have a good relationship. I beg to differ.

These skills are acquired, and most people, (male and female alike), fail to acquire their own skills through the assumption that they already possess them; and so the cycle of relationship breakdown continues. Men with Daddy issues, have to recognise them and acquire the skills to effectively deal with them, point blank.

Deep down, every man wants to live the fairy-tale too… just like women. Yet we berate the opposite sex for being stereotypically idealistic…living in a dream world. However, all men desire the beautiful wife, home, lifestyle and memories. We want children who harness our emotional thermometer, making them easy to love by generating uncontrollable fits of laughter to overwhelming feelings of being proud; all with an architect’s precision which makes us feel alive.

But most men learn not to chase this dream. Daddy issues can prevent this, creating enough cracks in a male’s emotional foundation, no matter how impressive his armour is! If the dream comes to us then ‘great’! We’ll handle it, just like a man’s supposed to do – efficiently. However, there’s no way we’re planning for this TV-show existence.

Each man can have his own daddy issues!

Perhaps your dad didn’t come and watch you play at the basketball game. Was your place in the team based on his stellar reputation of how good he used to be in sports? Maybe you were just doing it to make him proud. Nevertheless, we all know there’s no point being a chip off the old block, if the block isn’t there to see it.

Daddy issues can cause harm when it comes to dating, on the extreme it can lead to confusion in someone’s sexual orientation (Making someone think that they are gay just like it can cause lesbianism in women)

Signs your man has daddy issues

Almost every modern man has daddy issues.
I’m not saying this in a dismissive way. Each one of these wonderful men was deeply impacted by the behavior of a father who was abusive, emotionally cold, or just plain not there. 

Unless you’re some freak of nature (always a possibility) there’s a strong likelihood that the man you’re dating could be a dude with daddy issues all his own.

Let me tell you the most important thing before we go any further: this is a man who needs and deserves love.

But loving and dating him isn’t always going to be easy. In fact, some times it can be damn rough.

Here are 6 problems you might face dating a man with daddy issues.

1. He’s got a hidden (or not so hidden) anger

His friends describe him as the life of the party. He’s sweet and funny, a total goofball and a giant pushover. But he’s got a lot of anger simmering inside him. It can manifest in a lot of weird ways. Something as simple as fallen quiche could send him spiraling.

But you know what, I mean, he did make you a quiche so there is that.

2. The idea of kids could freak him out

Sure, guys of all sorts have issues when it comes to talking about a future, but your guy takes it to the extreme. You smile at a cute baby passing on the street and when you turn to look at him there’s just a him shaped cloud where the dude used to be.
3. He will be weird with your dad

He’s charming as the day is long. He meets your friends and they love him, he even manages to charm your mother. But he’s weird with your dad. If he agrees to meet him at all he’s hostile and sullen.
He can’t separate his own dad from what it means to be any dad at all.

4. He has a hard time opening up

By month three of dating, he’s got a pretty solid sense of who you are, where you come from. Of course, there’s still a shit ton to learn, but there’s a foundation. But you know almost nothing about him. You  know where he lives, you know what music he likes, you know he makes he laugh until you want to pee, but, that’s kind of it.
He’s a closed book, not by choice, but because he’s had to be.

5. He can’t say “I love you”

Even if he really, really wants to say ‘I love you’, it’s just not possible. It’s buried deep in his throat. You can tell he cares when he smiles at you or lets loose a comfort-fart in your presence.
But for him love equals pain, and he’ll do anything to avoid feeling that way ever again.

6. Fighting with him is impossible

Try fighting with a guy who has daddy issues. Try it. I dare you. It’s impossible. Like a crab, he will retreat deep into his shell before he’ll risk expressing his feelings in front of you. 

Unless he’s drunk in which case he might start sobbing and tell you about how his dad walked out on him for a life of drugs when he was five.
How to deal with daddy issues

All men are told to ‘be a man’; which is hard enough if you don’t know how. However, it’s even more so for those boys who are told to ‘be like your old man’; knowing full well, that his 6 foot 2 inch muscular frame is something that your 5 foot 7 inch stick-thin physique is unlikely to ever emulate.

Perhaps your dad was the most intelligent, forward-thinking and achievement compiling male of his professional environment; and knowing this placed a psychological pressure on you, rather than the physical one to achieve something of comparative brilliance.

Or maybe your dad was just crap. Did he leave your mum for another woman? Damage her so badly with the open nature of his extenuating sexual exploits or controlling dominance that neither you nor her ever recovered? Most Dads just don’t know how to be a Dad.

There is no parenting manual – and he was likely to have had daddy issues of his own!

This doesn’t mean that these Dads didn’t give it their best. However, sometimes they just don’t know how to love; so he justifies his love with materialistic gifts or hollow promises.

Maybe he struggled to express any emotion effectively besides anger and laughter; and you didn’t want to be on the receiving end of either of them. His anger may destroy your face whilst his laughter, (directed at you, not with you), might contribute to the destruction of your self-esteem.

And as we know, some guys had the pleasure of their Dad being an amalgamation of all these characteristics or worse, maybe yours just didn’t exist… an unknown spectre casting the biggest shadow over any of your personal qualities or achievements. Rearing its head by the most innocuous of questions such as ‘who’s your dad?’ Some men grow up with a mother, who blames you for your absent father’s shortcomings and any resemblance in you, magnifies your daddy issues exponentially.

And these are just the tip of the iceberg but before you know it, you’re 21+, a man yourself so to speak. So what do men do? We play the stereotype…. Hard!

Sleeping with lots of women; getting into physical fights, refusing to back down, (even if it’s stupid); pursuing the financial/materialistic kudos of our age/social group. Hiding our emotions and of course never shedding a tear – unless it’s of significant purpose, like the passing of our mother of course. Even then, some men contemplate using sunglasses.

We can’t be seen to be acting like a bitch or pussy, we have to take it like a man. We have to ‘man-up’. Some women even scream this in your direction, (which is even worse, because that means she IS looking at you like a bitch or pussy), which can result in some silly retaliatory behaviour. You can see why some men would act in such a way. However, is it possible for him to have learned to deal with the daddy issues that he might be unaware of?

Regardless of the answer, the cycle has to be broken. Remember, society is powerful enough to mould and shape the majority of its individuals beyond belief. This is the world that men are navigating; a world of perpetuating daddy issues. Whilst consciously, (or unconsciously), dealing with these internal demons, he has to find a way to come out on top. He thinks he has to beat all these other men he is competing with… and then he meets a pretty girl….