The Subtle Gold Digger

The most highly-effective gold digger knows her man enough to get what she wants WITHOUT ASKING!

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Gold digger: a person who seeks or digs for gold in a gold field. 2. Informal. a woman who associates with or marries a man chiefly for material gain. Origin of gold digger.

What’s wrong in being a gold digger?

She seems innocent and harmless, right? ?

Exchanging a perceived “love” for money.

The typical scenario of the old wealthy man and younger, often beautiful, woman is what most people think of when the word “gold digger” is used. It’s a contrast that immediately stands out and makes people very judgmental and/or jealous.

However, it’s not much different than two people marrying for other reasons: security, love, sex, power, etc.

These things are much harder to see because they are not physical attributes on display.

I will give examples of two type of people here:

1 . Gold Diggers

2 . Person Who Want A Partner With good position but not a Gold Diggers

And How being no. 1 is bad but not no. 2

Let’s imagine you are person with good income, nice car, and a home, But due to some circumstances you lost these things so how would your partner react in both cases?

In case 1 GOLD DIGGER : Your partner will start ignoring you , you will not feel same love now as that when you felt when you were wealthy and that person will start looking for other rich date and finally dump you

Where As in case 2 : Your partner will start caring for you more , they will be with you , they will comfort you , they will understand and won’t ask for dates in restaurants and will help you rise again .

What are the habits of highly-effective gold diggers?

Subtlety “Can you help me pay for the electricity? I’m running short this month.”

Patience “My car broke down, can you help me with rent too? I promise to pay you back when I can.”

Sacrifice “Since I lost my job when my car broke down, can you take care of rent and electricity for a little while? As soon as I get a job, I’ll take care of it, but in the mean time, remember that <sexual act> you wanted?”

Guilt “I’m still not on my feet, but I feel like I’ve been washing your clothes and having sex with you so you might be taking advantage of my hard times. But it’s kind of working for us, except I want to have less sex.”

Conversion “I’m pregnant. How can you ask me to work now while I’m carrying your baby? You did this to me.”

Escalation “I need $1000 a month for my credit card bills because I buy things when I’m not happy. And you’re not making me happy.”

Divorce “I need you to pay my rent, bills and child support while I do my best to prevent you from having equal custody so that I can reinforce the idea that you’re not a good father.

Also, I’ll use that man to pay for the birth of the next child I’ll have fathered out of wedlock to keep the pressure off my next victim…er husband – and make it appear that I’m the together lady you thought I was.”

How do you gauge gold diggers from non-gold diggers?

Gold diggers are masters of manipulation and deception. Do not make the mistake and think of them as lazy. They are hard and dedicated workers with their goals always on their mind. They can go great lenghts to get what they want. If you are a good catch they may invest years.?

They are looking for a provider who ideally is easy to influence. These can be young and naive people, or older people who miss something that the gold digger provides. May it be the illusion of being caring, sex, having astonishing “trophy” looks, or some kind of mental support.

Gold digging only works, because a gold digger studies her subject excessively. They have a predatory mindset and are constantly looking for weaknesses that they can supply. Also they may try to isolate you in some way, or tell you secrets you have to keep. This is how she finds out if you are trustworthy, and if you will keep your mouth shut when weird stuff starts to happen.

If you are lonely, they give you company. If you are boring, they give you the impression you are exciting. If you have nobody to talk to you, they are your shoulder to lean on and cry. They will also trade sex for gifts, or suggest ridiculous things like they will make your dreams come true if you do the laundry.

It is very possible, that the whole persona you are dealing with is made up. Again, she has studied you. If she thinks you want the sweet girl, she will be the sweet girl. If she thinks you need a smart girl, she will be the smart girl. If you want a dumb ass, she will be the dumbest.

Also it is very likely that she made things up, just so that you are similar. Her parents do the same things as your parents. Her sister is like your sister. Her hobbies are like your hobbies. Her interests are like your interests.

Because of the nature of the beast, she may be dating multiple guys. Business trips, or friends or family she meets with that you never meet, may be indicators of that. While doing this, she may be very controlling. Asking about your day, gathering information to use it against you.

So how do you figure out if somebody is a gold digger?

  • if you are in love, your mind is clouded. You are easy to manipulate. If she does or says odd things write them down. Ask friends, family or “neutral” people for advice for the given situations. This is absolutely key. If you are secretive about a toxic relationship, you are lost.
  • Is she manipulative in general? Does she trade favors with you? Does she suggest she will “repay” you if you buy something for her?
  • Does she offer some things or actions only if you buy her something?
  • How often does she pay, or does she pay at all? This can be a tricky one. She may even appear generous, but keep in mind that it is possible that somebody bought her those concert tickets. And now she is going with you to the concert. Does she leave her wallet at home often? Does she buy groceries from time to time?
  • Is she telling stories about how her father provided for the family? How her sisters husband bought all the furniture? How her friends boyfriend is financing everything? Is she telling you that the man always has to provide?
  • Is she wearing expensive clothes and jewelry, that she unlikely can afford herself? Probably even telling stories how luxury bags have good resale value (men buy her stuff she can sell for income)?
  • Is she living in an expensive place, or driving an expensive car, or constantly travelling to fancy places, despite not having a significant income or a rich family? If so, somebody is

probably paying for her services.

Is it important for her to point out which brands or luxury stuff she, her family, or her friends own? Does she appear to have different personas? Is she sweet like honey to you, but can change instantly to a fury when talking to service personal? Do you sometimes think her “mask” just slipped. Is she keeping up with the “mask” she is portraying? Is she telling she is from rich background, but has weird manners that do not fit?

    • Do you sometimes feel that something is off?
    • Is she both (appearing to be) caring but also ruthless and ice cold? Is she ready to leave you if you have no money? Does she suggest you should meet less if you can’t afford to pay up for whatever?
    • Does she suggest to move out instead of helping in any way?
    • Is she moving to “her mother” if you are short on cash (her mother = other guy)?
    • Is she charming everybody, do all your friends love her? Does she have different characters in public and in private that don’t fit together?
    • Is she kind of aggressive when pursuing goals?
    • Does she flirt with more wealthy or more attractive men in your presence but plays it down later? Is she testing how far she can go with flirting?
    • Is she generally pushing boundaries often? This may be very subtle, depending on the skillset of the golddigger. Like the slowly cooked frog that doesn’t jump out of the pot.
    • Is she too perfect? Like you can’t believe it to be true perfect? Like, suspicious perfect? If it is too good to be true, be wary. It probably is.
    • Does she have narcissistic tendencies? Does she value people that are higher up on the social ladder more? Does she devalue less successful people openly?
    • Is she talking a lot about plastic surgery, has she had some, or is she even talking about her ex-boyfriend how he paid for surgeries?
    • Does she have antisocial, especially parasitic tendencies?
    • Do you have the impression that she is always in a good mood, but still the relationship kind of feels like she is working a job? Is she putting unreal effort into the relationship to keep you hooked? Do you ask yourself, is this possible that somebody is putting this crazy effort into your relationship?
    • Does she compliment you on everything? Is everything you want to do a great idea? You’re the best without exception? That ripped jeans that all women hate, she likes when you wear them?
    • Does she view her money as strictly her money, but your money and your assets also as hers? Is your house or business already your and hers when she talks about? Even if you have been dating only for a couple of months?
    • Does she say “we” often, meaning “you”? Like, we should do task xy, but always you end up doing it alone for her? Then she tells you how great and caring and manly you are?
    • Does she want to move in very fast? Usually before talking about who does the laundry or talking about costs? After she moves in, is she hard to get out when you are breaking up? Does she refuse to move to her parents or friends, even if she lives in your house, or despite having her own appartement?
    • Has she some kind of nomadic lifestyle? Nobody knows her for a long time? She switches cities or countries often for some reason?
    • Has she some fairytale story about her life, assets in some foreign country that probably do not exist, is she a duchess in whatever land but without proof? If in doubt ask, check and double check.
    • is she lying a lot about small things? Is she lying a lot about big things? Is she secretive? Is she asking you a lot of questions but at the same time not answering yours (gathering information to use it against you)?
    • Does she stop putting in effort after she moves in or after you start “seriously” dating? Does she threaten to move out if you ask her to do something associated with house work?
    • Does she literally expect you to put her on a pedestal and does she expect that you tell her often how you love her (this can be a test to see how easy you are to manipulate at the moment)? At the same time she tells you less often how she loves you?
    • Is she controlling, like somebody who is watching his business?

Gold diggers come in different shapes and from different backgrounds. Despite of all of these tips, it is very hard to spot a skilled gold digger. Yes, amateurs are easy to spot because they are obvious. The pros are con artists. You literally don’t see it coming.

Jezebel

New Age Jezebel by Bell Kariuki

Hello, it’s been a while, as I promised I’d make a post before end of the year (2017) so here it is. Let’s talk about the “new age Jezebel.”

Disclaimer: This Post Might Come off as Extremely Offensive. I try to keep it as real as i know. Feminists… Proceed with caution. I’ll try my best to stick to the Bibilical perspective because it’s universal. However,as I’ve observed, these character traits appear in both the modern day male and female genders .
You can add some of your insights on the comment section just incase I’ve missed out something.

Please note: The pictures as expressed  here have no relation to the real characters of this article. They only represent the Modern day woman. Like characters in a film. Respect the hustle.

Personally, i believe that Jezebel is a spirit/culture that has found it’s way through our generation, not really an actual person, but more like a toxic mindset that we have acquired from the media/social[circles].
DEFINITION

Jezebel: A female who is seeking attention from and possibly plotting to use someone who is wealthy or otherwise desirable in order to gain status in society.

She is often beautiful and knows it, she uses her looks to her advantage to “lure in” her next victim.

She doesn’t enjoy being out of the loop, she very much has to be the center of attention but also doesn’t have many real friends because of how shallow she is.

She will do anything and will use anyone to get what she wants. She is interested in the people she’s interested in purely as a status symbol and will toss them away and move on when they no longer satisfy what she wants.
“She’s such a Jezebel”

Urban Dictionary 

Jezabel: A female whom is a fundamental danger to men, she’s a shameless hoe will track your cock down and males are powerless in her morally void traction pull. (Not my words , i don’t endrose that)


Jezebel, according to the bible.

“But I have this against you, that you let the woman Jezebel say she is a prophet [claiming to be inspired] and give false teaching, making my servants go after the desires of the flesh and take food offered to false gods.” (Rev 2:20)
[1 Kings 16:31; 2 Kings 9:22,30.]
Who was Jezebel??

Jezebel was an actual person. Jezebel, the Biblical character, first appears in First Kings 16, when she marries Ahab, king of Israel. Jezebel was the daughter of Ethbaal, the king and high priest of the Baal worshipping Sidonians. Baal worship was closely associated with obsessive sensuality and often involved sex acts. Jezebel, as a daughter of this perverse kingdom, was raised in an atmosphere where sex was a path to power and influence.

Ahab, King of Israel, was completely subdued and dominated by Jezebel (a type of modern man). Jezebel then introduced the worship of Ashtoroth to Israel. This god/goddess, represented the Canaanite culture of the moon, was a power-hungry goddess of love and sensuality. Priestess-prostitutes filled her shrines and serviced her worshippers. The lure of these legal, readily available erotic encounters was more than the men of Israel would resist. By Jezebel’s influence, most Israelites, the northern kingdom, left the worship of God for Baal and Ashtoroth. The prophet Elijah laments that only 7000 men in the entire nation were not swayed by her control.

Ashtoroth or Asteroth for the Philistine was the same as the Semite Astarte, both modelled from the Babylonian Ishtar, Her other counterparts are Isis and Hathor of Egypt, Kali of India, and Aphrodite and Demeter of Greece. The Roman counterpart was Diana the same as in Act 19:35. Indeed the same goddess in these days goes by the name of Mary.

The Council of Ephesus, 431 AD had the cult of Diana the virgin goddess (in Greek = Artemis, in Phoenician = Astarte, her cult continued in Ephesus until 431) supplanted by the cult of Mary by the Roman Catholic Church to legitimise that Mary was the “mother of god” and the “mother of all” and not Diana that also had these attributes. They also gave to Mary all the other attributes of Diana such as: “queen of heaven” and “divine virgin” etcetera. Before 431 AD Mary was not recognized and so they effectively paganised Christianity at Ephesus and Diana, still alive, had her name changed to that of Mary.


What kind of spirit

The Jezebel spirit is born of witchcraft and rebellion. This demon is one of the most common spirits in operation today, both in the church and in the world, and it is a powerful enemy of the body of Christ. She operates freely on sincere believers whose hearts are for God individually, and has also attained positions of power as powers and principalities within the Church. This spirit establishes its stronghold primarily in women; however, many men have been victimized by it as well, where it functions as a “controlling” spirit.
The spirit of Jezebel is behind the daughter of Democracy, i. e. Feminism.

The Spirit of Jezebel is basically a controlling spirit working through the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. It has, in general, two aims:

To gain identity, glory, recognition, power, and satisfy the need for the “praises of men”. This is a consequence of the desire for love and self-worth focussed on SELF.
Secondly the Jezebel spirit is a men hater and seeks to emasculate all men, and divest them of their authority and power over others. It fosters a distrust and hatred of men in general. The “Jezebel spirit” is in a constant agitation, terribly aggressive, very determined, callous, controlling, selfish, power-hungry, manipulative, unrepentant, deceitful spirit, an overwhelmingly evil spirit, and those are mostly only it’s good points! Indeed this spirit can be definitely named “Satan’s woman”.


There are two main types of the Jezebel spirit:

The high-profile type is generally gregarious, outspoken and highly visible. She is often seen as the “woman who wears the pants in the family”.

The low-profile type is soft-spoken, giving the illusion of being solicitous, motherly, protective, even appearing very submissive. The low-profile type may be the most dangerous, as she is the most difficult to discern. She relies heavily on manipulation for her power, in extremely subtle performances.


Some Characteristics

Within these two main types there are two manifestations: the SEDUCER and the COOL.


The SEDUCER
uses any type of seduction available to gain control and power, as a method of manipulation but specialises in spiritual seduction to operate on both males and females. 

Her seduction usually uses subtle flattery and her seduction is spiritual fornication. Men are particularly blind and easy victims to the subtleties of this seduction, as she flatters them with her attention. Women seduced by the Jezebel are blinded to their own seduction, as they do not expect it, or are not aware of such manipulation.

A good example of the COOL Jezebel personality can frequently be seen as the efficient (and often plain) executive assistant at the side of a powerful businessman or church leader. This Jezebel often lacks a gregarious personality, but may be very outspoken and aggressive.


Some of this spirit’s features:


Deceiver

This spirit works in “private”, people outside her circle hardly know her manoeuvring and are an easy pray for manipulation. Those that are possessed by her tend to defend her from any form of criticism. Like many men today defend feminism.

Man-Hater

Jezebel hates men and majors in destroying them. She cannot have a true Godly relationship with men; because her desire is to strip them of all their perceived power and then destroy them, to emasculate them emotionally and spiritually.

Un-submitted

Jezebels revile (despise and show no respect for) authority over her. Building on “dislike of authority” (especially of men since they are frequently the authority figure) coupled with rebellion, she hates anyone placed in authority over her (particularly men), and seeks to destroy them and take their power. Jezebel sees herself as the “goddess on the pedestal”.

Power-Hungry

Jezebel is extremely power-hungry, respecting only power stronger than her own. She disdains or considers herself superior to anyone she perceives as having no power, or power less than hers. She works through her conquest to attain power over others.

Intelligent

This spirit from hell is very intelligent and finds very challenging to control and manipulate intellectually able people. She is able to manipulate them so well that actually they worship her.

Hard Worker

Jezebels are frequently “super achievers”, which sadly is admired both in the church and business world. She is also a master in hinder others to achieve anything, kind of: doing everything she can to prevent others achieving their set goals for then criticise them for not having achieved these aims.

Self Worship

Internally Jezebel worships herself even though externally she may portray a picture of humility and submission. She is very proud of herself and extremely vain, and in her pride can only talk about herself. They are usually very attractive and they use that to seduce their victims.

Jealous

She cannot suffer other getting attention over herself and she will do all she can to prevent others receiving attention and recognition. If one gets between Jezebel and the person she is trying to control, she’ll attack most viciously, trying her best to destroy that relationship with that person. She will try and destroy his reputation, undermine his authority and generally stop at nothing to separate anyone from her intended “victim”. Beware!

Manipulator

Jezebel uses other people as objects, where it suits her need, to gain control, influence and power. Once she has gained the control desired, she generally rejects and tosses the people aside. If they are in her family, she does this emotionally.

Queen Bee

Jezebel demands worship from others (the “queen-bee” syndrome). She must have dominance and control in her home. Other family members exist just to please her. Jezebel requires “worship” from her family and followers … to be their “goddess”.

Domineering

The Jezebel is extremely authoritarian (“bossy”) by nature, though subtly with the low profile type. She is easily offended if her authority is questioned, and will often respond with extreme anger at even the slightest offence. She demands blind loyalty.

Unrealistic Expectations of Others

Her expectations of others are always unrealistic, because others cannot meet her demand for complete submission. If they do try, she despises them and casts them aside when she has what she wants out of them. Anyone attempting to relate to a person with this spirit is literally in a “no-win situation”. Nothing pleases this spirit.

Perfectionist

Perfectionism is a common characteristic of the Jezebel, generating self-hatred in the victim, and a despising of others around her who fail to meet her exaggerated standards. This is part of the “unrealistic expectations” she has toward herself and others, but it is also an excuse for disrespect toward others, especially those in authority since they don’t “measure up” so she doesn’t have to show respect, of course.

Seduction, Control, Manipulation

Control and manipulation are the strongest parts of the Jezebel nature. These are “spirits of witchcraft” and are extremely dangerous! Nearly everything the Jezebel does utilizes one or both spirits to attain her goal. Jezebel is the ultimate manipulator. The adulterous woman says: “This is the way of an adulteress: she eats and wipes her mouth and says, “I have done no wrong.”” (Pro 30:20)

The first step in Jezebel’s work is to control her victim by seduction. She will use flattery, smooth prophetic sayings, pleasant words and seducing tears. She views children in a marriage as tools and weapons to manipulate hubby and family.
She knows how to use deep emotional hurts and wounds to manipulate and control as she creates apparent deep ties with others. Jezebel loves to pull people unto herself and away from those who can truly speak into their lives. Jezebel flows best in a whirlwind of confusion and turmoil, where she works best.

Shark

Jezebel is like a shark; she is most vicious and dangerous. She circles the lives of others looking for teachable, seducible, controllable, “disciples” of her own. Jezebel likes to birth spiritual children of her own as she looks for disciples to eat from her own table. She will look for those that are in rebellion, who are weak, wounded, or those who are contending, bucking, and fighting any established spiritual authority.

Possessive

Jezebel is very possessive and domineering; she wants to control over others. Jezebel loves power, “Give me, give me, give me.” You see, money is not really the issue with this spirit; it’s Power and Authority that she’s after. She likes to be in control of others life because she draws her strength from controlling others. She spiritually drains her victims. She uses faults or weaknesses she perceives in the person she is attempting to control to create feelings of shame or guilt, and therefore ultimately submission to her will. She also often uses fear and intimidation to manipulate others into submission to her.

Self-pity

She uses self-pity and her own weaknesses to manipulate another into submitting to her out of compassion or pity. Feeling sorry for Jezebel, is not compassion, it’s folly!
Even though often very gifted of the Lord, the Jezebel will frequently operate in the false discernment of the enemy by speaking words of knowledge gained from familiar spirits, and NOT from the Spirit of God. This is “witchcraft”. The power of witchcraft is derived from Satan himself and every attempt at manipulation or control “sells out” more to Satan and strengthens the deception the Jezebel is under

She will even use prayer to manipulate the one she is attempting to control, especially audible prayed over that person to create the illusion, that doing Jezebel’s will is actually “obeying God”, or to generate fear or other emotion within the person which the Jezebel can then use for manipulation of them.
This is what Rev 2:20 is all about.
Only Wants to be associated with the Rich & Powerful

Jezebels are attracted to people of power like “moths to flames”. Often, a very intelligent, efficient, attractive, and even blatant Jezebel can be found serving “at the feet” of prominent leaders, even in the church. The deception and/or seduction of the Jezebel is often so successful that the leader does not recognize who is at his right hand. The Jezebel’s true desire is to wrest the power from the person being served. If that person is prophetic in nature, the actual mission is to destroy them by any means available (destroy their credibility, undermine their authority, discredit their ministry, cause them to fall into sexual temptation, etc.).

Ambitious

Jezebels are desirous of “moving up the ladder” wherever they are, not that ambition is always “evil”. It’s just another character trait to look for. However, you simply will not find a humble, repentant, democratic and non-ambitious Jezebel.

Convinced

While Jezebel’s beliefs system is obviously incorrect and evil, they are very firmly held beliefs.
Jezebels are usually people of deep convictions. As mentioned earlier, many people controlled by the Jezebel spirit have a true heart for God and earnestly desire to serve him. The original Jezebel (the Spirit’s first noteworthy in queen of Israel) was devoutly religious, but was at total enmity with God. She worshipped at the altar of Baal (worship of the flesh). Modern day Jezebels may indeed believe they are serving the one true God; however, the true hidden agenda is “self-worship”. In many cases they have a Private Interpretation on the Bible, but they will vehemently insist they are correct.

Murmuring, Complaint, and Criticism

Murmuring and complaint and criticism a type of spirit very popular everywhere, especially in the church, which one of the spirit most used by the evil one. She uses criticism of perceived faults in others to build up her own self-esteem, and to justify her disobedience of, or lack of respect for, others. Because she tends to perfectionism, any fault she finds in others is grounds for disobeying their authority. She uses criticism as a tool to manipulate those around her, and along with murmuring and complaint, causes divisiveness to weaken her opposition and thereby to gain control over and to destroy them.

Lustful

Jezebels are “lustful spirits” with lust for power being primary; however, as mentioned earlier, their lust may be manifested sexually, if it will bring the desired result. The manifestation varies from a wife withholding sexual union from the husband for manipulative purposes, to utilizing sexual temptation to draw one more powerful into a compromised position that will cause their destruction or downfall.

Jezebel displays angry, vicious and sometimes violent behaviour when opposed. 

She will turn on the one who refuses to do her will or submit to her (especially if she has been successful in manipulating this person in the past), frequently with a vicious, berating verbal attack aimed at humiliation. The emotional damage caused by these outbreaks can be devastating to the one at whom she directs her wrath. This is often the source of terrible emotional wounds for her children and spouse. When this angry behaviour happens in public, it often exposes the true spirit in operation to others who may have been previously deceived. Watch for it.

Infirmities and Disease

Jezebels frequently enjoy people’s (including their own) poor health, especially the “Low-profile” type. For them, it is a tool for attention, sympathy and other forms of manipulation. The tragedy is that this form of “invited infirmity” eventually leads to real physical problems, and becomes a part of the destruction wrought on the host by this spirit, but it serves to further Jezebel’s ends, not to weaken her.

Have you ever felt insecure? Be careful, Jezebel loves to delve in the realm of insecurity. She will spot this in you “instantly” and then the seduction begins.
Destruction

In addition to destroying those around her, Jezebel especially hates the prey she is controlling (remember the mission of Jezebel is to kill the prophets: the victim is often herself anointed of God to be prophetic), and will ultimately cause her victim to self-destruct. This is referred to as the “Black Widow spider syndrome” since black widow spiders kill their mates. In the spirit realm, there are two applications: 1. the Jezebel spirit seeks to kill the male authority figures (or prophets) and 2. She seeks to kill her victim, which is mated to her when Jezebel takes control of their life.
Cursing

Jezebels curse everyone, unwittingly bringing a curse upon themselves, most of the time. Criticism is a form of cursing, both of the person being criticized, and of God their Maker. Murmuring and complaint is a cursing of circumstances, which also curses God for allowing them. Jezebel is a master of criticism, murmuring and complaint, as mentioned previously. Often those whom she is at enmity with are deliberately cursed in a conscious effort to “punish” and “bring them back into line” to bring them back under her control. Jezebel firmly believes she has right on her side in doing these things, and displays vicious and callous disregard for the well-being and independence of others, having convinced herself that it is ultimately for their good as well and that she knows best and really has their best interests at heart in doing so. Those people who have been on the receiving side of Jezebel’s curses feel the anger and the viciousness other curses acutely and many succumb to them. However, for those under the “protection of the Cross”, these curses are most often transformed into blessings instead, leaving Jezebel sapped of emotional energy, frustrated, confused and completely defeated; wondering what went wrong?


Superiority Complex

Jezebels frequently perceive themselves as intellectually and spiritually superior to others, and “talk down ” to others. This attitude is actually despising of others.
The Jezebel Spirit absolutely hates and shuns Repentance and Humility.
Because the Jezebel spirit is prideful and rebellious, she hates repentance and humility. These are two mighty weapons, which can be used against her. This is also the key in discerning this spirit -a pride-filled rebellious person refusing to repent.

Jezebel and Fashion

Jezebel is very much attracted to the latest fashion in dressing and she dresses up to demonstrate superiority and literally to slay & “kill”.

Bitterness and Resentment

Bitterness and resentment against past hurts and offences are nurtured in the victim by the Jezebel spirit, because she knows a root of bitterness will grow like a cancer and manifest itself in all sorts of physical ailments, which she can use as tools of manipulation, as noted above. Of course, this cancer of bitterness is also slowly destroying the victim. In many cases, the countenance of the victim gradually grows more and more unattractive, and in the end, victims controlled by the Jezebel spirit may resemble the very witch like crones often used to symbolize witchcraft -where this spirit is birthed. The victim rots from the inside out, physically and spiritually, and it shows. People eventually find Jezebel’s “Spiritual ugliness” very repulsive.


Jezebel Covens

Many Jezebels will be drawn to the most influential Jezebel in operation. Though this is done unconsciously, it has the effect of creating a fully-fledged and very effective witches’ coven, with a “high priestess” in charge with devastating results! You can see them spread all over the country in the Feministic organisations.

Jezebel and Children:

Jezebel’s view of children is perverted. She says she loves them, but she really doesn’t even know how to love them, using them as weapons to advance her own selfish needs. Children are simply pawns in her power and control games. Indeed the trend now all over the Western world is to have very few children, if any. A Jezebel Feminist said: “The most merciful thing a large family can do to one of its infant members is to kill it.”


Jezebel is a classic “Back-stabber”

Jezebel is the classic back-stabber, She will smile at you, give you a hug and a kiss and then, as soon as you turn-around, stab you in the back, repeatedly, with vigour, enjoying every wound she inflicts. She is a most vicious and devious spirit. Beware.
This, just to mention only a few of the characteristics of this very evil spirit from Hell.

What about the Spirit of Ahab?

One thing to be noted in these days is that in general there are more women in church than men. This occurs when the “spiritual and natural” head of the family is the women. Men have the tendency to “run to the hills” when women infringe upon their roles.
The spirit of Ahab is a weak and emasculated figure, indeed the majority of modern men are under that spirit, enslaved to their women. There is an adage that says: “There are two kind of people in this world: those who rule and those that are ruled, if you do not rule you are ruled”.

The couple Jezebel and Ahab represent very well our present society.
It is Jezebel that was the more spiritual, it was her that took the leading role, Jezebel used Ahab’s emotional stresses to endear herself to him, it was this woman that drove her husband to do what she wanted, she was ruling the roost in every aspect. Is not that a picture of our Democratic culture?
But what happens when the woman takes the leading role that God had prescribed for men?

When a woman takes the lead, she is playing the masculine role. Unless her husband fights her for supremacy, he must assume second place. And men who are forced into subjection to their wives tend to be angry, dejected and retreat like Ahab.

When a husband steps into a spiritual role at his wife’s command, he becomes vulnerable to her guidance in that role. This is against God’s directives and the nature He gave, and often brings conflict in the family and in the church.

Many men turn their heads when they see their wives stepping out of their God given role. These men would rather not have to deal with the stone-cold anger they would receive from their wives if they offered any resistance. Have you seen that behaviour here and there?
Ahab chose not to notice when his wife worked behind the scenes. Many men turn their heads when they see their wives stepping out of their God-given role. 

Jezebel knew that she was not the rightful head, so she invoked her husband’s name to give her word authority. Did you ever hears it said, “Oh, my husband will not let me do that,” when you knew in truth he really would not care? It is a way to maintain control and stop those who would question you. When a woman does this, she stops any ministry God has to her.
Jezebel was deeply concerned about spiritual matters and took steps to help promote her spiritual leaders. In the process, she provoked her husband to destroy those in spiritual authority she did not like. Have you ever seen women influencing their husbands to think evil of those in authority because you did not like something about them? When a woman comes to this place she might as well change her name to “Jezebel.”
The fact is that man is made in such a way that he has no defence against the love of a righteous wife, but if he falls into the end of a Jezebel, truly is life will be hell on earth.

Unfortunately for men, with the advent of Democracy and the so called feminist approach there are billions of Jezebels in the world and the once manly men have been reduced to weak type of Ahab’s, they have been mentally emasculated and the world is in deep decadence because of that, as we see today.

How many women do you actually know they do this today?: “10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” (Pro 31:10-12)
How powerful is the demon of Jezebel?
For seven years, God had carefully protected Elijah. God fed him in the wilderness. When Ahab’s armies sought to kill Elijah, they were unable to lay a single finger on him.
Finally, in a showdown at Mt. Carmel, Elijah called down fire from heaven and resoundingly defeated and killed the priests of Baal. All Israel fell at his feet in repentance, worshipping the true God. Elijah was the man of the hour. He was vindicated, victorious, and clearly in charge.

Nevertheless, when Jezebel sent Elijah a single threat, he suddenly turned coward and fled to the desert. Anxious, depressed, and miserable, he begged God to kill him! Typical of men today, run to the hills. Once I asked one of our secretaries to prepare some papers, I gave her plenty time, but when time came they were not ready, so I let her know my displeasure in no uncertain terms. She looked at me with all the hate she could muster and hissed between her teeth the usual feminist phrase: “you are a male chauvinist”. “Yes” I responded, “on so is my Father for he created them “male And Female””. She looked a me rather violently, I felt she was about to hit me, (be sure that had she done that I would have returned the favor) but she turned around and never talked to me ever again, but the papers were made ready pronto and I had no problem with her with other papers. You see she hated me, but she respected me for I stood my ground. How many men would have done that in these days? Me thinks very few.

It makes NO sense. Elijah enjoyed supernatural protection for seven years. He watched fire fall from heaven and defeat his enemies, yet when a single angry woman threatened him one time, he lost every shred of vision and ran away. He moaned in self-pity and depression, begging God to kill him! Surely that was a magnificent display of God’s power and that power was with Elijah, but at a word from Jezebel he forgot all that and ran in fear. Surely that must have annoyed the Lord at least a little, for it seems that in that occasion Elijah feared more Jezebel that the Lord God.

This is a great example of Jezebel’s powerful demonic “anointing” to intimidate, create fear, and cause men of God to withdraw. Jezebel steals our vision. Jezebel will even make us depressed and anxious when there is nothing significantly different in our circumstances. If there are difficult circumstances, this spirit will tell us they are insurmountable, impossible, and overwhelming. Jezebel will make us feel like dying when in reality, we are God’s man of the hour.

Jezebel’s witchcraft will attack key leaders in her targeted area through intimidation. Those under attack may awaken one morning to find it takes effort just to breathe. All joy seems to depart. Spiritual life seems irrelevant. Demonic voices will echo in our minds “something’s wrong with you!” We may suddenly find ourselves in unreasonable anxiety, fearing tragedy or death. Much of what is called “depression” in the ministry is simply Jezebel.

Jezebel wants to paralyze with fear, condemnation, depression, apathy or whatever it takes until we withdraw. The only answer for those under Jezebel’s attack is perseverance in battle. We must remain on course no matter how long it takes!

The sad thing is that she is so successful in her endeavour these days.

War

The war continues today between Jezebel and Elijah. Like all wars, there are casualties. Leaders sometimes fall. Soldiers sometimes withdraw. Jezebel wants to keep the church and the world within its present boundaries. She claims to decide the extent of the church locally. We must not tolerate this.


What we must do

First, we must rid ourselves of Jezebel’s ways. We cannot cast out lust when we harbor lust in our lives. We cannot bring down a spirit of control if we use manipulation and hype to control our congregations. We must examine our own ways, and repent of Jezebel.
Second, it takes Jehu. Although Elijah was Jezebel’s enemy, it took JEHU to trample Jezebel.
Jehu took no prisoners and showed no mercy to Jezebel. He had singleness of purpose and was driven by it. As he approached Jezebel those who saw his chariot noted he “drives furiously” (2Ki 9:20). When others offered peace and compromise, Jehu responded “How can there be peace as long as the harlotries and witchcrafts of Jezebel are many?” (2Ki 9:22)
This is repeated in the NT: “What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?” (2Co 6:15) NO COMPROMISE
Jehu would not rest until Jezebel was dead. Her pleasures could not attract him. Her threats did not deter him. He would not tolerate Jezebel.

Jesus says we too cannot TOLERATE Jezebel. (Rev 2:20) We must learn the prophetic power of the word “No!” We must give no ground.
When Jezebel attempted to captivate Jehu, he did not even allow himself to be drawn into conversation with her. Instead, he called on her eunuchs (a type of today’s men) to cast her down from her balcony. Those with the Jehu anointing will call to Jezebel’s emasculated slaves to rise up above their miserable situation, and they too will cast her down, and be set free.
“NO” is the operative word against Jezebel, when those in spiritual authority say “NO” to her, she is ready for war. Remember, Jezebel is a warring spirit who is always dressed for battle.
Brothers, the time is over nigh, the time is well passed, but we must stand and we must rise up and regain our God given position. What shall we say to our beloved Master, Christ Jesus, when He will ask us: “what have you done with the life I gave you?”.  There will be lowering of heads and faint voices: “You know, o Lord”.
We must work all of one accord with a Trowel in one hand a Sword in the other.

“16 ¶ From that day on, half of my servants worked on construction, and half held the spears, shields, bows, and coats of mail. And the leaders stood behind the whole house of Judah, 17 who were building on the wall. Those who carried burdens were loaded in such a way that each laboured on the work with one hand and held his weapon with the other. 18 And each of the builders had his sword strapped at his side while he built. The man who sounded the trumpet was beside me.” (Neh 4:16-18)
In conclusion, I’m strongly inclined towards the bibilcal values. As men we need to play our role and be responsible ,and females ,as much as i support you bossing up, and living life to the fullest, don’t forget your bibilical roles. You can still be a boss and respect your husband.
A virtuous woman is priceless! Enjoy your holidays.

Signs You Are a Side Chick

All The Surefire Signs You’re Just His Side Chick And Nothing More

“if you start a relationship being the other woman, you will never be the only woman.” Bell Kariuki on Relationships

​Sure Signs that you are a side chick and not his girlfriend.

By Bell Kariuki (InstagramTwitter

Within the past few years, guys having a “side chick” has reached an all time high. There are songs, movies, and even books about being the other woman, which is pretty messed up.

You’d think men would “keep it 100” and tell you if they weren’t ready to be in a relationship with only one person (or that he’s actually already with someone when you meet).

 Instead, they’ve gotten a lot more clever and underhanded in their tactics and they know how to keep their girlfriends and their side pieces separate.

Also, being a side chick is no longer an embarrassment to some women, which gives us men more reason to have one. 

Here are a few signs that he’s actually in a relationship with someone else.

1. He buys you sh*t to keep you happy.

Hush gifts are things he buys for you when you start talking about serious sh*t, like moving in together, committing, or spending time with his family, and an argument sparks. Because he wants to keep you as his side chick, he finds your material weakness and plays on that to stray you away from the serious topics and also to keep youaround.

2. He seems completely disconnected when you get emotional with him.

When women date, they anticipate the time in their relationships when they fall for the guy and can tell him how they feel. However, if you open up to your man and tell him how you feel repeatedly and he doesn’t reciprocate and/or tries to downplay the entire topic, this could be a sign that his heart lies elsewhere.

3. You’re never invited to stay the night after sex.

As couples get more comfortable with each other, they tend to stay over at one another’s place after sex. However, if he leaves your apartment in the middle of the night, or makes sure you never stay over at his place, this is a definite red flag. Also, keep in mind, if he has a family or“main chick”, staying until dawn will never be an option.
4. He refuses to show affection in public.

PDA (Public Display of Affection) should never be an issue in any relationship, so long as it’s within reason. But if you go to grab his hand and he pulls his away, or you never kiss or get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re a side chick. This also gives him room to lie to his “main chick” about who you are if you two happen to be seen.
5. He dodges every photo opportunity.

Everyone is on Facebook and Instagram posting their food, kids, and significant others. Snapchat and Whatsapp make every day a motion picture production. So if you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like bullets whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture,you may be a side chick.

6. You have a “secret spot” that he tries to play off as romantic.

Every couple has a favorite spot to eat or hang out. However, if he choses to always take you miles outside of the city or to venues with very little traffic, it’s a possibility he’s trying to be discreet about being out with you, without letting you know.
Bonus

He always wants to meet late at night.

If you only meet after dark or after reasonable date hours, such as 11pm or later, chances are he has another life that he leads – the hours prior to those latenight “booty call” hours.
He prefers to stay in when you’re together.

If your guy always strays away from going out or always wants to just come to your place to hang out, this is a major side chick indicator. There’s a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time.
You’re never invited to family gatherings. 

If you have never met a guy’s parents and children or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is another side chick indicator.

He has to go suddenly whenever you’re on the phone.

When you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name more often than not, that’s a definite sign you are a side chick. If he’s always gotta go suddenly or straight up hangs up on you out of nowhere from time to time, that’s probably because his actual girlfriend got home.

The Gay Cult (Why I don’t support LGBT) 

LGBT: The New Bullies on the Block
A sick, twisted generation. So sad what this World has become.

Gay groups use mob intimidation and passive aggression to force capitulation.

Exposing the gay Agenda, Integrity’s scared of the in-your-face methods by Bell Kariuki

By Bell Kariuki (InstagramTwitter

What comes first into your mind when someone suggests that homosexuality is wrong in 2017? “oh he’s primitive” “people are still religious?” “hypocrisy” “we are all sinners” or some will be compassionate enough to say “we understand, some people are closed minded, and you can’t blame them” lol yeah right. Typical bullying tactics.

Well, here’s my bold approach, I used to be naive too. I assumed that everyone is fair and driven by justice, and the interests of other people, fighting for human rights and the “greater good” until I studied  political science and the laws of human nature. Adults and Human beings in general are driven by their own interests and that’s a fact. We are driven by our own selfish interests. No matter how much we pretend to be fair and try to act selfless. It’s almost impossible to see the world through someone else’s eyes. So most people choose not to. We choose to ignore the other side. We pretend to be nice and “socially acceptable” but behind the masks we are simmering with anger and other dark emotions. There’s no such thing as fighting for equality, I call bs. Anyone worth respect is and will be treated with respect. That’s a fact. The rest is politics.  Having such kind of knowledge a sense of understanding helps you begin to look at things for what they are and not for what people sugar-coated the bullshit to be. Do we hate gays? NO. But Do we support their bullshit and sexual Perversion disguised as “human rights”? NO! 

The reason why some  people are gender confused is because they are  under a delusion, because they take pleasure in Sin rather then the Truth. Some of them have come up with their own ideal of what they think God is about and not finding out who God really is. They have made a false God that they worship. Some are just worshiping them self, it’s all about them only ( selfish) could care less about anyone else’s happiness only their own.  The God of Heaven will not allow a homosexual or transgender person in Heaven unless they hate that they are in SIN and struggling to pull themselves out of this Sin, by seeking Jesus to help them  with repentance in there heart. 2 Thessalonians  2:8 And then shall that Wicked be revealed, whom the Lord shall consume with the spirit of his mouth, and shall destroy with the brightness of his coming:  2:9 Even him, whose coming is after the working of Satan with all power and signs and lying wonders,   2:10 And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. 2:11 And for this cause. God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: 2:12That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness. Deuteronomy 22:5 5 A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this. 1 Corinthians  6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,effeminate = Transgender  abusers of themselves with mankind” in the King James Version (KJV): The KJV was finished 1611 CE when there was no single word in the English language that referred to homosexuals or homosexuality. The translators were forced to use this awkward phrase. The term “homosexual” was only created in the late 19th century.  “homosexuals,” (NASB); “homosexual perversion,” (NEB); “homosexual offenders,” (NIV). ef·fem·i·nate əˈfemənət/ adjective (of a man) having or showing characteristics regarded as typical of a woman; unmanly.synonyms: womanish, effete, foppish, unmanly, feminine; informalcamp, campy, flaming trans·gen·der transˈjendər,tranzˈjendər/ adjective denoting or relating to a person whose self-identity does not conform unambiguously to conventional notions of male or female gender. “a transgender activist and author” G3120 Original: μαλακόςTransliteration: malakos Phonetic: mal-ak-os’Thayer Definition: soft, soft to the touchmetaphorically in a bad sense effeminate of a catamite of a boy kept for homosexual relations with a man of a male who submits his body to unnatural lewdness of a male prostitute Origin: of uncertain affinity TDNT entry: None Part(s) of speech: AdjectiveStrong’s Definition: Of uncertain affinity; soft, that is, fine (clothing); figuratively a catamite: – effeminate, soft.

God’s Plan for the Gay Agenda
Articles (Bible Excerpt) 

Genesis 2:18-25; Genesis 19:1-28;

Leviticus 18:22; Leviticus 20:13; Isaiah 5:20; Ezekiel 16:46-50; Matthew 19:4-6;

Romans 1:24-28; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11;

Galatians 5:19-21; Ephesians 5:22-33; Jude 7-8

If you’ve been watching the headlines over the last couple years, you may have noticed the incredible surge of interest in affirming homosexuality. Whether it’s at the heart of a religious scandal, political corruption, radical legislation, or the redefinition of marriage, homosexual interests have come to characterize the world. That’s an indication of the success of the gay agenda. And some Christians,including somenational church leaders, have wavered on the issue even recently. But sadly, when people refuse to acknowledge the sinfulness of homosexuality—calling evil good and good evil (Isaiah 5:20)—they do so at the expense of many souls.

How should you respond to the success of the gay agenda?

Should you accept the recent trend toward tolerance? Or should you side with those who exclude homosexuals with hostility and disdain?

In reality, the Bible calls for a balance between what some people think are two opposing reactions—condemnation and compassion. Really, the two together are essential elements of biblical love, and that’s something the homosexual sinner desperately needs.

Homosexual advocates have been remarkably effective in selling their warped interpretations of passages in Scripture that address homosexuality. When you ask a homosexual what the Bible says about homosexuality—and many of them know—they have digested an interpretation that is not only warped, but also completely irrational. Pro-homosexual arguments from the Bible are nothing but smokescreens—as you come close, you see right through them.

God’s condemnation of homosexuality is abundantly clear—He opposes it in every age.

– In the patriarchs (Genesis 19:1-28)

– In the Law of Moses (Leviticus 18:22;

20:13)

– In the Prophets (Ezekiel 16:46-50)

– In the New Testament (Romans 1:18-27;

1 Corinthians 6:9-10; Jude 7-8)

Why does God condemn homosexuality? Because it overturns God’s fundamental design for human relationships—a design that pictures the complementary relationship between a man and a woman (Genesis 2:18-25; Matthew 19:4-6; Ephesians 5:22-33).

Why, then, have homosexual interpretations of Scripture been so successful at persuading so many?

Simple: people want to be convinced. Since the Bible is so clear about the issue, sinners have had to defy reason and embrace error to quiet their accusing consciences (Romans 2:14-16). As Jesus said, “Men loved the darkness rather than the Light, [because] their deeds were evil” (John 3:19-20).

As a Christian, you must not compromise what the Bible says about homosexuality—ever. No matter how much you desire to be compassionate to the homosexual, your first sympathies belong to the Lord and to the exaltation of His righteousness. Homosexuals stand in defiant rebellion against the will of their Creator who from the beginning “made them male and female” (Matthew 19:4).

Don’t allow yourself to be intimidated by homosexual advocates and their futile reasoning—their arguments are without substance. Homosexuals, and those who advocate that sin, are fundamentally committed to overturning the lordship of Christ in this world. But their rebellion is useless, for the Holy Spirit says, “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9-10; cf.

Galatians 5:19-21).

So, what is God’s response to the homosexual agenda?

Certain and final judgment. To claim anything else is to compromise the truth of God and deceive those who are perishing.

As you interact with homosexuals and their sympathizers, you must affirm the Bible’s condemnation. You are not trying to bring damnation on the head of homosexuals, you are trying to bring conviction so that they can turn from that sin and embrace the only hope of salvation for all of us sinners—and that’s through faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Homosexuals need salvation. They don’t need healing—homosexuality is not a disease. They don’t need therapy—homosexuality is not a psychological condition. Homosexuals need forgiveness, because homosexuality is a sin.

I don’t know how it happened, but a few decades ago someone branded homosexuals with the worst misnomer—”gay.” Gay used to mean happy, but I can assure you, homosexuals are not happy people. They habitually seek happiness by following after destructive pleasures. There is a reason Romans 1:26 calls homosexual desire a “degrading passion.” It is a lust that destroys the physical body, ruins relationships, and brings perpetual suffering to the soul—and its ultimate end is death (Romans 7:5). Homosexuals are experiencing the judgment of God (Romans 1:24, 26, 28), and thus they are very, very sad.

First Corinthians 6 is very clear about the eternal consequence for those who practice homosexuality—but there’s good news. No matter what the sin is, whether homosexuality or anything else, God has provided forgiveness, salvation, and the hope of eternal life to those who repent and embrace the gospel. Right after identifying homosexuals as those who “will not inherit the kingdom of God,” Paul said, “Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).

God’s plan for many homosexuals is that they come to salvation. There were former homosexuals in the Corinthian church back in Paul’s day, just as there are many former homosexuals today in my church and in faithful churches around the country. With regenerated hearts, they sit in biblical churches throughout the country praising their Savior, along with former fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, thieves, coveters, drunkards, revilers, and swindlers. Remember, such were some of you too.

What should be your response to the homosexual agenda?

Make it a biblical response—confront it with the truth of Scripture that condemns homosexuality and promises eternal damnation for all who practice it. What should be your response to the homosexual? Make it a gospel response—confront him with the truth of Scripture that condemns him as a sinner, and point him to the hope of salvation through repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. Stay faithful to the Lord as you respond to homosexuality by honoring His Word, and leave the results to Him.

I welcome all kinds of replies. Reblog, criclsize. Let the truth be spoken. 
​PS: we don’t want to be mean to gays; we want to expose them when they’re being bullies. 

Men With Daddy Issues

Dealing with daddy issues

Bell Kariuki on ​Relationships and Men With Daddy Issues

Do men have daddy issues? 

One huge contributing factor to why many relationships fail today and increase in homosexuality is because a lot of men have Daddy Issues! Yeah I said it.

New age Socialites and the stereotypical ‘exotic’ dancers aren’t the only ones inflicted with this debilitating hindrance. The average “Johnte” asking for your number in the mall is likely to have Daddy issues the size of a small island too. They may not be the same as the next man’s, but even though this topic is rarely addressed, (ironically because it’s not manly), it continually stalks the psyche, (often unconsciously), of many.

The world today has changed so much that individuality (Narcissism) is the new trend, doing things the way you want is correct and this includes parenting and relationships. It’s funny, how many people believe the human superiority complex. As the dominant species on the planet, too many make the incorrect assumption that we’re born with all the necessary skills to have a good relationship. I beg to differ.

These skills are acquired, and most people, (male and female alike), fail to acquire their own skills through the assumption that they already possess them; and so the cycle of relationship breakdown continues. Men with Daddy issues, have to recognise them and acquire the skills to effectively deal with them, point blank.

Deep down, every man wants to live the fairy-tale too… just like women. Yet we berate the opposite sex for being stereotypically idealistic…living in a dream world. However, all men desire the beautiful wife, home, lifestyle and memories. We want children who harness our emotional thermometer, making them easy to love by generating uncontrollable fits of laughter to overwhelming feelings of being proud; all with an architect’s precision which makes us feel alive.

But most men learn not to chase this dream. Daddy issues can prevent this, creating enough cracks in a male’s emotional foundation, no matter how impressive his armour is! If the dream comes to us then ‘great’! We’ll handle it, just like a man’s supposed to do – efficiently. However, there’s no way we’re planning for this TV-show existence.

Each man can have his own daddy issues!

Perhaps your dad didn’t come and watch you play at the basketball game. Was your place in the team based on his stellar reputation of how good he used to be in sports? Maybe you were just doing it to make him proud. Nevertheless, we all know there’s no point being a chip off the old block, if the block isn’t there to see it.

Daddy issues can cause harm when it comes to dating, on the extreme it can lead to confusion in someone’s sexual orientation (Making someone think that they are gay just like it can cause lesbianism in women)

Signs your man has daddy issues

Almost every modern man has daddy issues.
I’m not saying this in a dismissive way. Each one of these wonderful men was deeply impacted by the behavior of a father who was abusive, emotionally cold, or just plain not there. 

Unless you’re some freak of nature (always a possibility) there’s a strong likelihood that the man you’re dating could be a dude with daddy issues all his own.

Let me tell you the most important thing before we go any further: this is a man who needs and deserves love.

But loving and dating him isn’t always going to be easy. In fact, some times it can be damn rough.

Here are 6 problems you might face dating a man with daddy issues.

1. He’s got a hidden (or not so hidden) anger

His friends describe him as the life of the party. He’s sweet and funny, a total goofball and a giant pushover. But he’s got a lot of anger simmering inside him. It can manifest in a lot of weird ways. Something as simple as fallen quiche could send him spiraling.

But you know what, I mean, he did make you a quiche so there is that.

2. The idea of kids could freak him out

Sure, guys of all sorts have issues when it comes to talking about a future, but your guy takes it to the extreme. You smile at a cute baby passing on the street and when you turn to look at him there’s just a him shaped cloud where the dude used to be.
3. He will be weird with your dad

He’s charming as the day is long. He meets your friends and they love him, he even manages to charm your mother. But he’s weird with your dad. If he agrees to meet him at all he’s hostile and sullen.
He can’t separate his own dad from what it means to be any dad at all.

4. He has a hard time opening up

By month three of dating, he’s got a pretty solid sense of who you are, where you come from. Of course, there’s still a shit ton to learn, but there’s a foundation. But you know almost nothing about him. You  know where he lives, you know what music he likes, you know he makes he laugh until you want to pee, but, that’s kind of it.
He’s a closed book, not by choice, but because he’s had to be.

5. He can’t say “I love you”

Even if he really, really wants to say ‘I love you’, it’s just not possible. It’s buried deep in his throat. You can tell he cares when he smiles at you or lets loose a comfort-fart in your presence.
But for him love equals pain, and he’ll do anything to avoid feeling that way ever again.

6. Fighting with him is impossible

Try fighting with a guy who has daddy issues. Try it. I dare you. It’s impossible. Like a crab, he will retreat deep into his shell before he’ll risk expressing his feelings in front of you. 

Unless he’s drunk in which case he might start sobbing and tell you about how his dad walked out on him for a life of drugs when he was five.
How to deal with daddy issues

All men are told to ‘be a man’; which is hard enough if you don’t know how. However, it’s even more so for those boys who are told to ‘be like your old man’; knowing full well, that his 6 foot 2 inch muscular frame is something that your 5 foot 7 inch stick-thin physique is unlikely to ever emulate.

Perhaps your dad was the most intelligent, forward-thinking and achievement compiling male of his professional environment; and knowing this placed a psychological pressure on you, rather than the physical one to achieve something of comparative brilliance.

Or maybe your dad was just crap. Did he leave your mum for another woman? Damage her so badly with the open nature of his extenuating sexual exploits or controlling dominance that neither you nor her ever recovered? Most Dads just don’t know how to be a Dad.

There is no parenting manual – and he was likely to have had daddy issues of his own!

This doesn’t mean that these Dads didn’t give it their best. However, sometimes they just don’t know how to love; so he justifies his love with materialistic gifts or hollow promises.

Maybe he struggled to express any emotion effectively besides anger and laughter; and you didn’t want to be on the receiving end of either of them. His anger may destroy your face whilst his laughter, (directed at you, not with you), might contribute to the destruction of your self-esteem.

And as we know, some guys had the pleasure of their Dad being an amalgamation of all these characteristics or worse, maybe yours just didn’t exist… an unknown spectre casting the biggest shadow over any of your personal qualities or achievements. Rearing its head by the most innocuous of questions such as ‘who’s your dad?’ Some men grow up with a mother, who blames you for your absent father’s shortcomings and any resemblance in you, magnifies your daddy issues exponentially.

And these are just the tip of the iceberg but before you know it, you’re 21+, a man yourself so to speak. So what do men do? We play the stereotype…. Hard!

Sleeping with lots of women; getting into physical fights, refusing to back down, (even if it’s stupid); pursuing the financial/materialistic kudos of our age/social group. Hiding our emotions and of course never shedding a tear – unless it’s of significant purpose, like the passing of our mother of course. Even then, some men contemplate using sunglasses.

We can’t be seen to be acting like a bitch or pussy, we have to take it like a man. We have to ‘man-up’. Some women even scream this in your direction, (which is even worse, because that means she IS looking at you like a bitch or pussy), which can result in some silly retaliatory behaviour. You can see why some men would act in such a way. However, is it possible for him to have learned to deal with the daddy issues that he might be unaware of?

Regardless of the answer, the cycle has to be broken. Remember, society is powerful enough to mould and shape the majority of its individuals beyond belief. This is the world that men are navigating; a world of perpetuating daddy issues. Whilst consciously, (or unconsciously), dealing with these internal demons, he has to find a way to come out on top. He thinks he has to beat all these other men he is competing with… and then he meets a pretty girl….